ReMARCs: The Meaning of Fatherhood

I recently read a quote from Will Smith that stated, “There’s so much negative imagery of Black fatherhood.  I’ve got tons of friends that are doing the right thing by their kids, and doing the right thing as a father – and how come that’s not as newsworthy?”

As a father, I must acknowledge this salient point.  We are well aware of the issues and challenges facing Black men and fathers in America.  We confront and address many of them every day in the work of the Urban League Movement, including disproportionate education and unemployment rates, mass incarceration, and health disparities.  While I believe strongly in individual accountability, I also know that these societal inequities contribute to a narrative that has unfortunately overshadowed the many fathers who strive daily to “do the right thing” by their children and their communities.

These are the men who raise their biological children, serve as father-figures to countless more and stand as exemplars of lives well-lived.  They understand that our children don’t just need our pocketbooks – they need our presence.  Beyond our discipline, they need our direction.  As important as the lessons that we teach them is the love that we give them.

So, as we look to this Sunday, June 15, I wish all fathers a Happy Father’s Day – and especially salute those who approach “fatherhood” as the most important job any of us will ever have.